An Inherent Value within Us
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DO you know what is the one thing every human seeks from the moment they understand what it means to be human until they die? I will give you the infallible answer: it is ‘happiness’. Take a moment to reflect on yourself; you will find that you have also been searching for ‘happiness’ every day and night, and even now, in your current situation, you are still pursuing ‘happiness’.
In childhood, we searched for happiness in playing and eating activities. When we reached adulthood, we sought happiness in our ability to provide for our needs and fulfill our emotional desires. As we age into the later stages of life, with declining health, we build happiness through exercises, medication, and engaging in activities we are passionate about, such as gardening, walking, enjoying music, or finding peace through meditation or religion. We continuously seek ‘happiness’ in ways that suit us best, isn’t that, right?
Here, I want to ask two questions: Have you truly found and felt happiness? Have you achieved satisfaction to the extent that you desire? In fact, you might be surprised to know that the ‘happiness’ we are searching for until the end of our lives is already within us. Please don’t be surprised, my friend. Now, I would like to share with you a study paper about the key points of ‘happiness’ conducted by a group of scientists. They are as follows:
If you were asked the question “What is happiness?”, then what would be your answer? It may be hard for you to come up with a clear-cut answer. Your answer may be different from those of other people. Moreover, the definition of happiness may change over time - today’s view on happiness may be a different one tomorrow. Thus, happiness is a difficult concept to measure, because it is not constant.
According to the Merriam-Webster Dictionary (2016), ‘happiness’ means ‘a state of well-being and contentment’. Psychologically, when you are in a peaceful state of mind or when you have no stressful factors to think about, you are most likely to feel relaxed and happy. Whatever you are - a student, a worker, a housewife, or a pensioner, happiness means a better quality of life.
A group of scientists who have examined a number of studies from across the world have suggested ten ways to achieve happiness:
1. Have a good relationship with friends and family
It seems reasonable to assume that what makes people really happy is their relationships with others. Having a wide circle of friends and family is more enjoyable than having a lot of money. In addition, people with large families and lots of close friends are
happier than people who live on their own. Sometimes you may not be in a good mood or may feel depressed. At that time, if you hang out with friends or spend time with your family, your stressful feelings will be released. It has even been suggested that a happy home life and good friends can protect against illness.
2. Love your work and enjoy what you are doing
Some people feel passionate about their work and love what they are doing. In fact, job satisfaction and career success are important factors for your happiness. For example, you tend to achieve happiness when you can accomplish the tasks you have undertaken or when you become prosperous while doing the work you enjoy.
3. Be kind and help others
Treating everyone with kindness is another key element of happiness. Acts of kindness have the potential to make the world a happier place. According to studies by psychologists in different countries, when you help other people, it is not only good for them, it also makes you feel happier. A new survey has also revealed that generous people are happier and healthier than those who are not. The idea is that generosity gives them a nice, warm feeling when people say ‘thank you’ and show appreciation.
4. Don’t be envious of other people
The biggest barrier to happiness is envy, which is a state of desiring other people’s qualities, possessions, opportunities, etc. In your school or workplace, you will find yourself around people who are doing much better than you are. In that case, if you try not to judge yourself against other people, you will certainly be happier. People who are envious of others are more likely to experience negative emotions such as inferiority, dejection and depression. The best thing you should do is try to replace envy with such positive emotions as sympathy or empathetic joy.
5. Have better physical and mental health
Good health also is vital for happiness. It is undeniable that healthy people are happier than those who are not. To achieve true happiness, you must be fit, both physically and mentally - a happy person has better physical and mental health. It is widely known
that your mind and body are closely connected. If you feel stressed out, you are likely to experience fatigue and muscle tension. Similarly, if you feel happy and calm, you are likely to have more mental energy and more physical vitality.
6. Have a feeling of contentment
Contentment is the key to happiness - people who accept what they have are happier than people who crave for more career success and money. A recent survey shows that the simplest things in life are the most important for you. You tend to be happy with simple things, like a walk in a park, a beautiful sunset and an evening with a friend. It is true that people need to have a reasonable amount of material possessions, but wanting more than what is necessary breeds greed and frustration.
7. Get rich
Most people believe that money is the best way to find happiness. Of course, a person needs money to some extent in order to live comfortably. Rich people often consider that they are happy as they can buy expensive houses, new cars, big yachts and designer clothes. However, some people think happiness does not depend on money. Nevertheless, we can see many people trying to get rich in every possible way in the hope of achieving happiness in life.
8. Have a positive attitude to life
It is often said that life is composed of positive elements and negative elements. Having a positive attitude to life is a good way of finding happiness. For example, when you encounter difficulties in your school or work, you may feel disappointed and downhearted. At such a time, you must try to adopt a positive attitude to cope with these problems. You must also learn how to live contentedly with the negative elements of life rather than attempt to live a life where nothing bad ever happens. If you respond very positively to everything that happens, you will surely find happiness.
9. Think back to sweet memories from the past
You may be in a bad mood or feel downhearted from time to time, simply because you are looking inside you, thinking about bad things. A group of psychologists have discovered that thinking back to pleasant incidents in the past can improve your mood and make you more cheerful. For example, think about something in your childhood that gives you great pleasure, look at old photos showing happy events, or recall hearing news of someone’s good fortune. These sweet memories can put you in a better mood -they can make you smile, laugh, or feel joyful.
10. Practise meditation or mindfulness
Nowadays, people may suffer from work-related stress, which leads to severe diseases such as diabetes and heart disease. To reduce stress, people practise meditation, which is also known as mindfulness. The idea is that you find a clean floor, sit still, and pay attention to what is happening to you at that very moment. You should not think about the past or the future, just the present. Meditation will ease the tension in your body, clear your mind of negative thoughts, and give you a sense of inner peace and wellbeing.
Now that you have read the 10 findings of scientists on ‘happiness’, you should see that ‘happiness’ is an inherent value within us. It is our own mind that makes us unhappy. Once you understand this and apply it, for example, by practising the concept in point four or using the principles in points two or eight, you will find there is nothing more you need for ‘happiness’. You will have built complete ‘happiness’. People often overlook what is too close to them, like the saying goes, “too close to see.” It is unfortunate that we do not develop the virtues within us and instead, search for ‘happiness’ outside until the end of our lives. So, from today onwards, I encourage you to just be happy.
Source: The Global New Light of Myanmar